if only we communicate

I must do these things in order to communicate: Become aware of you (discover you). Make you aware of me (uncover myself). Be ready to change during our conversation. And be willing to reveal my changes to you.

For communication to have meaning it must have a life. It must transcend "you and me" and become "us". If I truly communicate, I see in you a life that is not me and partake of it. And you see and partake of me. In a small way we then grow out our old selves and become something new. To have this kind of sharing I must enter it with loose boundaries.

I must give myself to the relationship, and be willing to be what grows out of it.

But how to make sure the communication takes place?