could there be a long lasting relationship?

It would be nice if we could all follow a simple formula to lead our life, but life doesn't always follow the recipe. Human beings are complex creatures, each with his or her own set of aspirations and life experiences. Not to mention that variations also comes in differing levels of trust, prejudices and needs for companionship.

Perhaps the trickiest part of making new "friends" is maintenance. That's what I think. If we are seeking out a new relationship, perhaps we need to gauge the level of intimacy that works for both parties. Once it is established, at least a comfortable level of intimacy, then we need learn to live within the boundaries. Yes, it is never easy. Strong relationship bonds take time to develop, so never force the issue.

The relationship may survive in a long-distance mode (works for me, *gulp*), or it may wither from lack of maintenance. We must be prepared for either eventuality. Other relationships suffer from a shift in intimacy, in which the other person finds more satisfaction in a new or different affair.

Relationship is a constantly revolving state of being, so one of the best ways to remain a good friend is to allow those you care about to explore their own options. If the relationship is worth saving, it is imperative that we allow for the negative as much as the positive. Of course, all good things must end.

Forming a lasting relationship is not easy, for me at least...